A quick post before I have to start getting ready for work:
I was driving around and running some errands today and I started to think about relationships and companionship. Why is it that now days our relationship status is a direct correlation to our life status? I mean, honestly. If someone begins a new relationship with someone what is the first thing they do? Facebook. Seriously. You can't tell me you haven't done it...me? Guilty as well. If a person is alone, most view the situation with sympathy. I've only met a handful of [stable] people who view NOT being in a relationship as a good thing. So, why? Why must we think that we have it made if only we are in a relationship? If a woman in her 40s has never been married or even close to being engaged, what does that make her? Do you pity her? Maybe under some circumstances, yes...but probably not. Yet, a young college woman who is probably in her early 20s can be engaged and we praise that? How many of you really mean it when you tell someone "congratulations" after you hear they are getting married only a handful [or less] years after graduating from high school?
Me? I don't pity myself. Sure I just got out of a 1 year, unstable, ridiculously involved relationship and YES it hurt like hell. Ok? I won't deny it. It still sometimes hurts like hell, but listen. I am 20 years old and these next few [or maybe more] years are MINE. For myself. So I can strengthen my relationship with MYSELF. I don't need someone to text when I'm lonely at night or when I can't find anyone to hang out with on a Friday. So to all of you who think that being in a relationship makes you some sort of greater person, fuck that. Because while you're still searching for yourself 20 years from now, and even though you may have a husband/wife/significant other/boyfriend/girlfriend and possibly a house and a stable income, I will know myself...and when I'm ready to offer that up to a man, it will be because I am absolutely sure I am destined to be with him. Not because I was lonely and needed someone to fill my own personal voids.
"When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings." -Liz Gilbert
